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My relationship is just about over b/c of my mental health issues. I was in therapy but never officially diagnosed as borderline, though the definition reads like a bio. My depression has severely worsened over the last 3 months or so. Scarce employment and other personal issues are a few external pressures that are making things worse. I have barely been able to leave the house in this time and my savings have been eaten away.
My ability to trust has been damaged by my partner. He cheated. Our communication is poor: he ignores, I chase until it becomes unbearable. He has a tendency to lie. He says he is sick of trying. He does not believe it or I will ever get better. I just found out that he has been planning to move out for about a month now. I have been doing my best to get our relationship back on track. I sacrificed, as did he, to be together. I can't stand the thought of us being over.
What can I possibly say or do to make this right again?
I have done my best to listen to his concerns and to apologize for the things I have said. He felt he had to have the threat of moving out over my head to be on the same level as me. While I am glad that we are talking in a calm way, I feel abandoned yet again. He has ridiculed me for my depression before, calling it a "vacation."