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I have 2 small dogs. for the last 5 years. I also have a 12

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I have 2 small dogs. for the last 5 years. I also have a 12 year old. I am a business owner and very busy. We have recently moved and the original plan was that the dogs would live with my mother, she doesn't really want them. Now we have been offered a home for the dogs to live. They will not be separated and they would be well taken care of. I believe the family that wants them would be able to spend more time with them, and would love. The problem is getting my daughter to agree to give them away. Now, you also must know that I am the only one who takes care of the dogs. She really has nothing to do with them. She gets annoyed with them, and especially if she has to help me take them to the vet, etc... she just doesn't want me to give them away. She likes having them or better, knowing they are there if she ever wants to have anything to do with them, but I don't think she would really miss them in the end. Also, I don't want to put that kind of responsibility on her to make that decision, but I also don't want her to be mad at me later on. P.S. She didn't have any responsibilities as far as the dogs are concerned, and I'm sure, as much as a child will promise, she will not have responsibilities in the future. I also don't want to pass up this opportunity for the dogs to get a good home and stay together.


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Dear concerned parent,

I believe that I can help.

You have three options.

Clearly one is the best: to let the dogs have a home where they will be taken care of and happy together. They will get the best human attention and will be happiest themselves.

They do not have a viable option with your mother, who seems to be reluctant to take them, and if she did it might be grudgingly.

You do not have the time yourself to dedicate to them and your daughter will not be responsible for them. If she was serious about this, then she would already have fallen into the role of their caretaker, and has not done so.

I do not know how much time you have left before you have to make the decision, but if your daughter steps up to the plate and takes over from this moment forward, and sticks with it, then she could prove herself.

However, I fear (as you seem to) that she would not keep up with her responsibility.

You would be better off in the long run if you gave them to their new potential owners and explain to your daughter that there was real choice. Someone has to be in charge and make decisions, and that must be you.

Your daughter may learn that actions speak louder than words and that empty promises are not enough. This is not a punishment either. It is a hard decision and you do not have a viable alternative.

She will get over their absence soon enough and may realize that she was in part responsible for you decision, as you could not longer be their caregiver, and she never tried to be.

If she cannot bear to lose them then she will take care of them. It probably won't happen, as you implied.

I think that everything will work out for all concerned.

Warm regards,

Elliott, LPCC, NCC, Psychotherapist
Category: Relationship
Satisfied Customers: 7664
Experience: 35 years of experience as a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, National Certified Counselor and a college professor.
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