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Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I am sorry to know about this frustrating situation.
it seems that a core issue here is the very different approaches-personalities you have. You said it has been only 5 months that you have been dating but already have had many emotional difficulties. it seems that what each of your expect and need from each other and this young relationship is very different, than when she feels OK with something you feel you need much more. Finding a person with physical beauty, being fun and having other attributes does not guaranty a healthy and fulfilling relationship could be developed, since that mostly depends on how compatible both personalities, life styles, same value and belief systems, and same core expectations and needs, life styles both partners happen to share. otherwise it would be unrealistic to expect things would work just fine. People could have fun together, enjoy wonderful sex, or be good at a couple of areas, but if there is not the same level of maturity, values, life styles, affection and passion, mutual commitment to build something together as a team, it would never work, no matter how hard one person tries. For a healthy and fulfilling relationship to develops, it needs to be mutual, and both work on it with the same approach, as a real team.
Her recent decision to limit your communication and sharing show her level of interests is not the same as what you want and expect, but tat's reality, and as you said, you need to respect that, and from there see how well this fulfills you and works now and in the long run, affording the possibility that she could continue to get more distant. No way to know but through experience, just be mindful about reality, in that way you would know how to better cope and what changes you may need to implement in order to take good care of yourself and only afford what you really want and feel is worthy for you.
Does it make sense?
Yes it does, thank you. But do you think this is a healthy relationship? Do you thin k
Do you think I am being treated fairly?
You're welcome. based on your story, I do not think this is a healthy relationship since it does not seem to meet your core needs and expectations, neither even to allow you to feel comfortable, understood and supported in the relationship, but with a lower self-esteem and disregarded by her, feeling there have been "horrible" behaviors during this brief period of time you have been dating, and that is reality and a very concerning one. Because of this I do not believe you feel the relationship has been truly reciprocal, really fair, but frustrating.