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I am sorry to hear that you are feeling so unwanted by your bf. Long distance relationship can be very emotionally stressful. Living 2 hours away from one another and only being together on the weekend is hard enough, now that he will be going away for 6 months and you will only see one another once a month, it will be very difficult to maintain emotional and physical intimacy. Sometimes this can happen even before a person actually leaves. And I think this is what is happening with your bf, emotionally he is already distancing himself from you. He may truly be stressed about going away to work; stress can make someone withdraw from those they love. Some people even have to get angry with the person they love, so that they can leave. So, I am sure he is struggling internally. The troubling thing is that he is not sharing his feelings with you and speaks to you harshly. I would try asking him to tell you how he is feeling about the two of you being apart and about having to go away to work. Try to draw him out and understand what he is feeling. Just because his behavior towards you has changed, it does not necessarily mean that he has stopped caring for you. I know it hurts to feel ignored, neglected, but I would not leave him right now if you truly care for him. You will know if and when the time comes to end things with him. I hope this helps. Chat back if you have any questions, Eleanor
Hello again, good to hear back from you. I am pleased that your bf does not have to move further away after all and that he apologized. It does sound like he has been under an extreme amount of stress recently, so good that the two of you could talk about it. As he has planned to spend a weekend with his friends, it is understandable that he wants to do so, but I certainly understand your concerns. I suggest that you talk with him and tell him honestly of your concerns. Tell him that you really understand him wanting to go ahead with his guy weekend, but that thinking about it causes you to worry a bit about the weekend including other women. Then ask him if he can do anything to reassure you, make you feel better. Hopefully he will and you can trust him and be okay with him spending this time with his friends. I would suggest that you plan something special that weekend so that you are not sitting home worrying about what he is doing. Go out with friends yourself, visit family, have a day of pampering, just do something you enjoy that you would not be able to do if you were spending the weekend with him. I hope this help with the guy weekend question. Let me know if you need anything further. I wish you and your bf all the best, XXXXX XXXXX Eleanor
Hello again, I know it hurts to not have as much attention, spend as much time with your bf as you did before. But the difficult truth is that you cannot control what your bf does; and you cannot get inside his mind to understand why, without asking him. You need to tell him how you feel and ask him why he is spending less time with you; the two of you need to have a long talk. Until you do, you will continue to feel confused. I would talk to him about this in person and in public (i.e. out for coffee, dinner) because you are less likely to get angry with one another than when you are alone. Don't be afraid to tell him that you are feeling hurt and need reassuring that he still cares for you. I hope it goes well, take care, Patricia