Yes, I think this is it. She's an MD and very much a thinker and used to being independent. When we sat down to talk about it, she referenced her son coming home and what that would look like. How he would adapt. Also, she's mentioned being in a bad 20-year marriage and never wanting that to happen again. We've not talked about marriage or anything like that, so I think there is some emotional baggage about trusting me.
She came up with the idea of seeing each other twice a week, which I was fine with. In fact, we went out a Saturday night and had a great time like we always have had. I respected her on Sunday by not contacting her at all. On Monday, I did text to let her know that I was thinking about her and to have a good day. Later in the afternoon, I got this email:
You have done nothing wrong. I really just need some time and space. Please give that to me. That means dont text, call or email me for right now.
Remember the picture and saying you sent me the other day about if you love something set it free....
Thank you for abiding by my request even if you don't understnad.
So that's where we've been for 2.5 weeks. She has texted me a couple with little things that are going on, but the language is still very distant. Like she doesn't want any romantic stuff right now. But, I guess its a good sign she's communicating.
We both felt that out connection was something special, so I don't want to lose this girl. Do you think I should temper my language? I'm used to telling her "I love you" and "I miss you" when she's gone. She did the same things in the past. I sorta feel like that language could drive her further away.
I'm only responding when she initiates the communication at this point.