Thank you for your reply, but we have been through all the steps you suggest.
He is so very sorry for what happened, but says he thought I didn't want him anymore, as I left the house, but it hurts me to know, he waited only 5 weeks before starting this affair, after 28 years together, he never even tried to come to me, to try and get me to come back.
He finished with this woman after only 7 weeks, and says it was going nowhere, they were just two lonely people, who met up at the wrong time, she was separated from her husband for about 18 months, when she met my husband.
We have talked till we are blue in the face, he has answered all my questions, even the most gory details, which I think may have made things worse, as all I can see in my mind, are the things he told me he did with her. Nothing untoward, but the things most people do when sleeping together, but it still makes my stomach churn, just imaging them lying together naked, holding, kissing, and making love. He is just not the type to have an affair, and I am more than certain he has never cheated on me before. All he keeps saying is that it would never have happened, if I had not left the house, but I am just so hurt, that he waited only 5 weeks, after he was supposed to love me so much, that he embarked on this affair.
All our friends and family think I should forgive him, as we were so good together before all this, and he has admitted what happened to everybody, and admits it was the worst mistake of his life, and he is so sorry. But I still feel so betrayed and let down, how do I just let it go? I wish I could have a memory erasure.