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You two do not have a very steady or mature relationship; both of you seem insecure, but your boy friend more so.
I believe that he is afraid of letting you go unless he finds someone else.
He will have ample opportunity in the UK to have relationships with women, probably more so than in the US, and certainly outside of your closer scrutiny.
If this was a solid relationship without a history of ups and downs, breakups, and reconciliationas, I would be more optimistic about the future outcome.
You have an all or none attitude (stop talking to him altogether because he is gone or stay friends with him).
I think that you will both prosper best if you mutually agree to break up and allow each other to freedom to live your lives without a commitment to something so tenuous as this. This does not mean that you cannot be friends, but that friendship should not become a constant long-distance relationship with hours each day on the phone or on skype. Rather an occasional email to say hello.
In the meanwhile, it is important for you to get out there and date other men. It will give you a better perspective, not make you feel dependent, and may allow you to experience a relationship that is not so interdependent and insecure.
He may want to "save you for later" but that means "if something else doesn't come along".
You can't save people for later like that, because what may come between now and later is either a better relationship, or a series of other failed relationships because he is insecure and indecisive.
As you describe it, this relationship is not one that was made in heaven and does not have great prospects, as you describe it to me.
Let me recommend a book that might inspire you:
and one other book that will also give you a lot of positive perspective of life ahead:
I hope that my assessment has helped you.
I recommend the books as well.
I shall keep you in my prayers for guidance in making the best decision in the long run.
Elliott, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC