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There is this lady that I have known for a year. She is not

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There is this lady that I have known for a year. She is not my girlfriend; however, I have been trying to talk to her in order to get to know her better; you know? She and I work for different companies, but our companies work together. For a year, we have talked back and forth, like anywhere from 1 to 5 times a month, usually by e-mail, but sometimes by phone and in person as well. Anyway, she contacted me the other day and asked how I was doing, and I casually told her the truth. That I was trying to get caught up at work, on account that I had got behind because I had to go see a urologist. She e-mailed me back and said the following "I don't mean to be personal, but did you get a good report from the doctor? Is there anything we can pray about for you?" At first, I thought she was trying to tell me that she didn't mean to pry, and since I didn't mind, I e-mailed her back and told her that the urologist gave me a prescription for an infection I had and that he also had to do a procedure because I had a stricture, and I had to take it easy for a while after the procedure in order to allow it to heal, but that I was fine. Since she didn't respond back, then it dawned on me that maybe she meant that she wanted me to answer her question with a general answer without any details. My question is this: Did I blow it? Thank you.

Deardebra : You did not blow it.
Deardebra : When she wrote an e-mail too you that was her being interested. She wanted to see how you wewre doing that is a conversation starter to see how you are and then as you both e-mail each other back in forth then that opens the doors to you and her maybe going on a date.
Deardebra : She might of asked you if you wanted to go to dinner.
Deardebra : I feel you answewred correctly because she wanted to know how you were cause she cares about you and was concerned.
Deardebra : Now she knows you are healing and she might not want to bother you. So I want you to write her back and tell her that you are feeling better and. so she knows everything went successful.
Deardebra : Then you could say too her do you want to go to dinner some times or lunch and catch up on things. You both have work in common which is something you can talk about it would be a friendsly meet to see if there is a connection there for a relationship. She might have been waiting for you to ask her out.
Deardebra : I would make the suggestion to see if she wants to go on a date with you.
Deardebra : She sounds like she really cares about you a lot that is why she contacted you.
Deardebra : She must have been thinking about you and that is why she e-mailed.
Customer: I am sorry. My doorbell rang, and I stepped out a while. Thank you.
Deardebra : I am sure she felt bad that you had an infection and did not know how to respond that is why you want to respond again too her.
Deardebra : I feel she does like you and is looking to possible date. I would ask her.
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