Last text which was exactly a week ago verbatim " I got your messagejust getting an opportunity to reply. As far as im concerned you and I have nothing to discuss. All of our discussing ended months ao. After the break up, the threatenin to sue me, and the returning of the ring. I wih you no ill will. please do not contact me anymore."
It stung but I had to sit back and really think. Prior to all of this she started distancing herself because even down to being intimate. We had a bad arguement because I asked her too wear lingerie for me. She made a remark that if I buy it she would. the problem I had with that is that she can spend tons of money on shoes and miscelaneous dumb stuff and the one request that I had ( I never throughout the time we dated ask her for many things..she could not deliver). That and before we broke up I helped her purchase a TV because her room TV went out around Christmas time. She really likes to watch TV and her son watches the 50 inch I purchased in the living room ( mind you I have a 42 in my own livingroom the same model). She did not get me a chrismas gift because I stated that I needed something that she was not able to get ( would have gotten me the wrong thing and she was strapped for cash). I love Christmas the holiday but, i feel that if you treat me well all year around a gift should not matter. No effort was made which made me realize how selfish she was then.
Currently I am about to make settlement on my new house in a few weeks which is right around the corner from her ( not intentionally but best buy buying the house for 40,000 under market value, initially the plan was to live in one and rent one out) She does not know this I put my bid in the day after our last date which was before I was blindsided. It is aproximately 5 minutes from my job driving. The way my house is situated if she drives from the opposite direction of where she normally drive she will see my noticeable cars. I figured life goes on, she has a mortgage she can't afford to pay with her bills as well as student loan about to kick in. My mortgage will be no where near hers as well( already went bankrupt and has no family support). I will be swimming, she will be drowning, as well as she is the type to see when my car is there or not reguardless of who is in the picture ( been together 15 years and she is the jealous type...she drove by my house when I lived across town). I plan on giving her everything she wants " her space" and let her find out on her own my address. We already live close but not this close. I am a nice looking guy gained a few pounds being comfortable and lost 15 since this began. I feel now if she wants to move on let her. Anyoneelse that deals with her may not be around long and anyone long term will either have to help her ( may be an older guy who will take care of her or a younger person willing to move in...how long will it last ...maybe someone that keeps her happy idk). At this point we have no kids and no financial ties. I have 2 good jobs and I have a military reserve career, 22 years. My oldest child is an adult and my youngest is 15. If she wants to roll the dice let her. She will visibly see her losses the long run.
This does not change how I feel about her but, looking at the big picture it may be a blessing from God to leave her.
I Honestly feel that there is another guy in the picture because of the time that passed and how cold she was but, when she gets the news of the house. it will offset any momentum she think she gained on me.