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hey the othrr day I wad havIng sex wIth thIs guy In he went

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hey the othrr day I wad havIng sex wIth thIs guy In he went soft In dId not ejaculate ?
Submitted: 4 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Doctor Natasha replied 4 years ago.

Doctor Cameron :

what is your question?

JACUSTOMER-znqebnqg- : I thought I was dorKing to a relationship expert
Doctor Cameron :


JACUSTOMER-znqebnqg- : ok look I was wondering what is a man thinking when he goes soft during sex on a date in don't climax then goes home
Expert:  Dr. Norman Brown replied 4 years ago.

In order to understand the situation enough to comment I need to ask you some questions about your experience. I presume you're talking about a fairly young man--but how old was he?

How long have you known him? How many dates have you gone on with him?

What were you doing on your date before you started to have sex?

Were you drinking socially or using recreational drugs?

Do you know if he has a medical condition that might require some medication?

Do you think he had feelings for you? Did you have feelings for him?

Customer: replied 4 years ago.

He is of 29 years old ,we meet 8 years ago We got back up with each other last year phone calls only not face to face In argued as usually. I got his address off the internet in went to visit . The 3rd visit was a trespassing by police . So I had lost my place in wanted to stay with him . But we didn't hit it off as usual So now being homeless . I would sit at the church across the street from his place in watch was so important than me in his life . One might he was coming home in walked up to meet him . He calls me over we talk ,(((( he says if you miss me so much suck my dick right here outside , which led to the doggy style by the truck . He pulls out within like 5 minutes in deosnt climax . We agreed to get a hotel yet he grid in the house in don't return the rest of the might (())))


I know john don't get along with charlice it so he tells us cause at my knowledge last week he sees her outside see she lost her place in now is homeless . So she's walking in calls hr over to him now from what I hear she says after giving him head he wants it from the back pulls out like a few minutes later . Ain't hard more in does not climax . I my in if that ain't wired he says wanna a room . Goes in the house than don't show back charlice is outside all might waiting on him . Crazy but what I wanna know is what made him go soft like that like charlice is a attractive female .she can hold up with some the best .... Question why did he get turned off was that his way of saying f**k you . I mean that was rude if it was .

Customer: replied 4 years ago.
I guess what I'm saying is it's not fair to have to love someone who don't love you back . 8 years I've dreamed of the day we be back together . But now it's all like a nightmare I didn't want any if this to happen . The trespass , seeming to not have anywhere to go but the church RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIS PLACE .but the place is with his mom in she's all in his corner .
Expert:  Dr. Norman Brown replied 4 years ago.

He's obviously using you. Clearly doesn't love you. Also does not respect you. As long as you are homeless and want him to shelter you he will probably just use you for sex and send you away. It's best you go to a homeless shelter or Salvation Army and try your best to get your life together. You can't expect a man who hasn't wanted you for many years to give you love when you don't have the ability to shelter and take care of yourself. It's always best to take care of your own shelter (even if it's public assistance or a church program) and find ways to work in return for your basic needs BEFORE you try to get someone to love you.


He didn't ejaculate perhaps because he didn't want to take ANY chance of becoming responsible for a child with you. SO he won't let you depend on him. You have a lot of work to do to bring yourself back to some security and self-support, and that must come first.