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It sounds like he does have issues to resolve and a better therapist may help. Unfortunately you can't push him but so far. It does sound like it could be a rebound since the timing makes sense. It is sometimes hard to communicate to men that a rebound is just that. I would caution however that he is saying that he isn't in love anymore. But it seems to not make sense that he isn't in love but he has your picture displayed. That is why I think it may be a rebound. He may see this as a temporary fix but he isn't using the term rebound. I would just wait and see how this pans out. He may realize that a new relationship is not as fulfilling as he first thought. Sometimes people have to come to conclusions themselves especially when the honeymoon period is over.
A few days after he told me, I lied and told him that I had been with 2 people that he always felt flirted with me. He knocked papers off a table and screamed at me that he didn't want to work with me anymore then. I told him that I lied and I had not done that, and he asked me to not do that to him again. I am not proud that I did that but I was hurt. I told him the next week that we should be ok to work together, insinuating that I was seeing someone which was true but that ended very quickly bc I realized I was not ready. I did not see him for a few days and then he completely avoided me as much as possible at work . Finally he had no choice but to talk to me bc we had to work on a project together. Two days ago he was completely miserable at work and kept saying that he just hated that place. Is he telling the truth that it is all work related or is he hating the situation that we have been put in? Yesterday he was better and we joked a bit with each other. Since he has kept this girl such a secret how will I ever know of it is over with them? I also forgot to say earlier that a week before this information of his new lady was dropped on me, we had not spoken with each other for a bit bc I felt like he was not telling me something. I finally started speaking like I normally would and that day he kind of followed me around for a bit until no one was around us and he ran and hugged me very intimately, something we would have never done at work while we were dating. He told me he was so glad we were speaking again and he hates when we can't talk, Sadly I thought he was really missing being with me, and then I found out a week later about this girl. He does not think that he has done anything wrong, except for not telling me the truth and holding it back. Is there still a chance here? Is it possible that he really is over me? Is there anyway I can get him back? If so what? Can a man just hang out and sleep with someone so quickly and it really mean nothing ? I don't want to lose him bc I love him and we have been through so much together. I just do not know what to do in this situation.
Any response to my questions above?