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I can imagine how difficult this situation must be for you. While the relationship is not that sexual it is, still, the first relationship you had in a long time. And it may have potential to be a lifelong relationship. But you imply you have some resistance.
The resistance seems to be that this is not the way a lifelong beautiful relationship should be conducted in your value system. It doesn't seem to feel right to you in your values. I agree. That she doesn't seem to take her current vows to her husband with loyalty is worrisome. She's flirtatious and has had other lovers. Will she be any more loyal to you once she's living with you than she is with her husband? Is it really her husband who is at fault here or is it she who gets bored and needs to flirt and bed other men occasionally to feel good and young and attractive?
These are good questions, but they are questions. They mean, therefore, that you are not ready to make a commitment but there is no need to completely give up on the relationship. You have time to decide here. So use it.
Whether you should have sex with her during this time until she divorces is again a question for you to decide based on your values. If your values say you should not, then stay with your values. Believe me: you will not be happy in the long run if you have to keep going against your values to maintain her interest in you. If she loses interest because your values are so different from hers, then that will let you know the answer to your question right there.
But if she is able to maintain the platonic friendship for these two years, then that's great. Now, at the same time, I urge you to keep dating single women. You two do not have an exclusive relationship; she's married, after all. And if another woman does come into your life who you feel you wish to enter into a long term relationship, then this is your right and it is worthwhile. That she will be hurt is not an oppressive reality here; she is not that emotionally exclusive in her feelings. So, to summarize, keep on with the relationship, perhaps setting better sexual boundaries that are appropriate to her being still married, and keep yourself available to other relationships that might present themselves.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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