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my ex gf split up with me quite abruptly five weeks ago saying she had lost love for me but wanted to remain friends.she always answers my texts but they are usually quite abrupt .she never says no to a lunch date .the first time she broke down but the second time she seemed strong and was actually flirting with me.
she seems to need a reason to text me .like when it snowed or the valentine text on valentines day. i responded to the text by sending her a valentines card. the next day she sent me a text saying 'thankyou for the lovely card.I would really like her back but dont know how to go about it.Is there another guy on the scene?that would account for the abrupt ending? she has never lied to me in the 2.5 years we were together.
things were pretty bad before the break up..which was mainly my fault .
she wanted a serious future with me and because we lived 60 miles apart we only really saw each other once or twice a week although we kept in touch during the week..i lost my sister to cancer a year ago and wouldnt accept her death and i know this affected me until the break up made me look at my own faults and lay my sister to rest in my head.I have worked on myself and have become a better person and i just know i could make my ex gf very happy. 2 weeks after the break up i sent her a text saying i was truly sorry for the way i had been.she thanked me and said it meant alot. so i wait? but for how long?i dont want to be just friends. and she might meet somebody else in the meantime.the last time we went out she seemed quite cold towards me although she did let me kiss her goodbye.the next day she text me and said how nice it was to see me and said 'im sorry i dont feel the way i should right now'
lastly, my friends who have seen me upset have all given me different advice on what to do.The top advice is to go no contact with her to make her miss me....i think this will drive her further away..do you? another is to tell her that i am moving on in the hope she will panic...the third is to make her jealous by seeing another girl...i dont think i could do this to her apart from the fact i have never cheated on any girl i have been with...honour is a very large part of my personality.
And some have said she is just using me until something better comes along.
My biggest fear is her meeting another guy and losing her forever.
but I am a fighter and I will never give up on her unless she tells me otherwise.
I keep wondering if she misses me and everyday i hope for a sign from her that she does.