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This guy i been talking to for about a month i knew him before

we actually started talking a...
This guy i been talking to for about a month i knew him before we actually started talking a whole lot well one day we went out for a few drinks and he wouls stand real close beside me and talk to me most of the night after bar closes we say goodbye well since that night we been hanging around each a lot more...we would hang out each others houses watch movies talk about ourselves and our kids we would txt or call every now then yes we even had sex a few times but i am wondering what to label us i would say friends with benefits but i hink theres a little more than that bc he says multiple times he really likes me and he doesnt have to be drunk to say it he always wants to cuddle with me hug me or kiss me and everything else and we had this talk to take things slow i agreed as it was his idea but hes not taking it slow and he got me confused bc i think he wants more out of what we got going on but he isnt saying i tried tLking him about it and he said himself that he lokes things the way they r he said he is happy and very content and he says he thinks about me all the time i told him im just going with the flow whatever happens...happens so im wondering if he wants to b more than friends if so whats holding him back
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Hi there again,

There are lots of mixed signals here. He's almost coming across as having strong feelings for you. You both appear to be behaving in a way, one might argue as boyfriend/girlfriend - dating - if you know what I mean. You don't always have to give relationships and people within them labels, however it does help in that you both know what the expectations are from each other and what is expected within this remit - this is perhaps what may be holding him back. (I'm wondering if you, too, are holding back?)
I'm uncertain how he has responded when you have tried discussing it with him, has he said anything if you've asked him what's holding him back? Sometimes there are valid reasons in terms of if your 'partner' may have been hurt by another etc.. so, it's something to bear in mind.

Furthermore, 'friends with benefits' - it doesn't seem this way, but hey, this is about your definitions and what they might mean for you. There appears to be more emotion involved for this to be friends with benefits, it feels more as though you have both grown close- how couples courting/dating do.

You could simply ask him directly how he sees you and how might he describe you. Honesty is best in these situations, it can be scary and it doesn't feel like you're the one that needs to be brutally honest with him, it seems he needs to be more honest and open with you about his feelings, his hopes and fears - if you could get him to look at this, you may well get an answer from him. Give him room and space to be able to have that conversation, explain that you won't judge him but its important that you get an answer so you know where you (both) stand.

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He said he has this fear of being hurt and how he just got out of a 11 yr relationship with his ex fiancee and he said she cheated on him more than one occassion...he caught me off guard one day when he used the word love that he wanted to make love with me i didnt say anything in return i was just really surprised in and he mentioned before this all hsppened between him and i that he prolly would b clingy which he is doing a good job not doing that right now
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So is he wanting to be an a relationship with me u think boyfriend/girlfriend maybe or trying to see where i stand?
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Thank u u helped a lot
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