I am a 43 year old woman recently divorced, 2 small kids. He is 45, single, no kids, never married, has never been in a long term intimate relationship before. We have known each other over 10 years with mutual friends. A little over a year ago started to hang out more with mutual friends or going by ourselves going to dinner, movie or just hanging at his house watching TV, since I was going through separation & ultimatley a divorce. We have same interests, common backgrounds & he lives in same town as I work in. In beginning it was purely friendship, but on my part & his I thought it grew into more the last 8 months. I knew I needed to keep it a low profile, since I was only separated, not divorced, he knew this too. But he initiated a makeout session about a week after I moved out, so I thought ok he wants to go to the next level with me. We texted, call, go out, hang out, kiss a little which I mostly initiated (the kissing part) but nothing too major for about 4 months. He asked me to go camping with him with the mutual friends, so I knew we would be sleeping in a tent by ourselves. We each had our own air mattresses, but I kinda teased him that I would like to cuddle together. He went with that, but I could tell he was a bit nervous about it. So we had another makeout session, which I started, but he did respond somewhat aggressively. I knew he wasn't the type to just sleep or have sex with anyone. He seemed to really enjoy our kissing. His birthday came & I wanted to do something special, was planning on one thing which was a bit spendy, he suggested doing something else, I'm sure he didn't want me to spend that much on him, which that was sweet of him. Had great time, great conversation on the way there & back which was an hour each way. On the way back he invited me to his sister's wedding in a month, which I thought was a big deal. I said yes. Anyways got closer to home, since it was relatively early, he asked if to go out to a bar, I told him I would drive, but he kept on buying me drinks, so he ended up driving, So I ended up staying at his house, since we were driving my van, but again it was my suggestion that we sleep together (I spose I did want to have sex). We both were very nervous, I asked him how long it has been for him he said "a while". It took a while to get the nerve to get things started, but once they did it was good, only thing was he didn't last very long at all. Next morning he made me breakfast, watched morning news, read paper & I left. After that I though we were on the same page with the relationship. Stayed over night a few more times, but just slept. Went to his sister's wedding, was introduced to family, had good time. Stayed with him that night, the same thing happened with him not lasting long. He said that had never happened before, but with the person before me, he said he couldn't climax. Which was 3 years prior. No big deal I told him. Continued going out, texting, that sort of thing. But I was the one that always suggested me staying the night. The last time we had sex, if you call me doing him, sex. He said he feels guilty that he can't last long, so he didn't even attempt to do it. I made him nervous he said. I'm thinking he's just maybe a bit inexperienced & possibly a little intimidated with me, since I had been married. Went to a New Years Party, I ask if I'm staying the night, he says no. We had spent the night 3 days prior together, but just slept. He says that he wasn't use to sleeping with anyone. But I tried to tell him, you need to do it more often to get used to that person. We get into a conversation on the way back from the party, cause I've been drinking I started asking what the problem was. He says that he wasn't on the same level as I was in the relationship & wasn't there yet & he thought he would just piss me off eventually. So we didn't end the night really good. The next morning I call & see if I could come over & we talk about this, which he agreed to do. He said he didn't want the night before to end like that & it bothered him that it did. So we talk, he tells me he just wasn't there yet with the level I was at. Also he informs me that he doesn't feel the connection with me as I do him. He said he is really uncomfortable with the intimate part. But he really likes hanging out with me, being very compatible & so forth he thought hey maybe he could make this work. So with the intimate parts, he was just trying. But I am confused, he seemed to enjoy our intimate moments together & initiated that first kiss, so I'm thinking he must have felt something....What really hurts that I asked if it would bother him if I would go out with someone else, he said no it wouldn't. So I was crying, he said he didn't want to hurt me. I texted later that night, telling him I was having tough time, if I would come back to his level & see what happens, he said Yes he would try something like that. I'll have to see what that level is. So am I wasting my time?