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Hello. I am Dr. Brown and will take a moment to review your question.
Ok, I can certainly understand why you are feeling neglected. After waiting all day, you understandably want your girlfriend to connect with you when you get home. Perhaps you could reframe things by saying that you really miss connecting with her and would love to spend some quality time with her when she comes home. Maybe you could plan a "date" of sorts and suggest having a nice dinner together or watching a movie or just sitting and talking at the end of the day. Some couples take 30 minutes before dinner to just sit and talk about their day and really connect, which creates a feeling of intimacy before it gets too late. If you can do this, then perhaps each of you can have some alone time to go online, read, etc. In this way, the situation becomes more balanced and you get your "couple" needs met as well as "individual" needs met. I hope this answers your question. I appreciate a positive rating if you feel your question was answered sufficiently. If not, please email me and let me know what else you need to resolve this situation. Thank you for the opportunity to be of service.
i tried to follow your advice. so far i failed. what i will try do is not to meet her when s h e wants but rather give her one hour of privacy. let her be alone and accomplish what she wants to do. she is a person who believes that she is 24/7 busy.
Yes, that is a good plan. Give her one hour of privacy and you take that hour for yourself too. She will feel less pressured from you and most likely, want to connect after she has had her time. Take good care and let me know how it goes, if you wish. Good luck!