I am in love with my ex. We had a great relationship, but I also had a lot of stress in my life. Things built up and I became more distant. I was unable to show her the affection and attention that she deserved, and she dealt with it for awhile, but finally got tired of it and left.
I love this girl. She wouldn't even face me to tell me that she was leaving me. One Saturday night she stopped answering my calls and texts. The next day
I tried to reconcile by driving down to her house to talk to her. (She lives 100 miles away). Her mom told me she was not there.
I tried to call her and text her, she would not answer.
Monday, she came and collected her belongings while I was at work.
I sent her flowers on Monday and Tuesday to apologize. She said she was flattered but wanted me to stop spending money on her. She said she had seen her ex on saturday and he had gotten his life together, but at the same time she wanted space and time to finish the semester. She put old pictures of her and him up on facebook, but did not take pictures down of her and I.
She was telling my tenants that she still had feelings for me. A week later, my mother called her and they had a talk, and she seemed willing to work things out with me. She called me and we talked for about an hour and had a great conversation, we didn't talk too much about the relationship, I felt we should talk in person, but she said she wasn't ready to see me yet.
Later that night, she texted me and told me she was sad that this had happened. I told her I was, too.
She told me to stay strong, things will happen when and if they are supposed to. I told her that I would prove to her that I really did care, and she wouldn't have to hurt again. She said she didn't want me to prove it, that it should just happen.
She then told me she might be pregnant. I told her if that was the case, I would take care of her. She told me that's what she wanted to hear. She then stopped responding.
The next day I texted her and thanked her for the conversation, and wished her a good day.
No answer. After work I texted and asked if I'd done something wrong, no answer.
I waited a couple days. Texted her Wednesday morning to ask her how she was doing, she said she was fine. I told her I needed to talk to her after work about something important. (I was going to ask her to take my dog for awhile--- I'm changing jobs and have found it hard to take care of him. I wanted her to take him until I moved--because she loved him.)
She sent me a picture message of the pregnancy test---not pregnant. I told her I would call her at 5:30.
When I called at 5:30, she had changed her number, and blocked me on facebook.
Friday, I was in the hospital for kidney stones. She found out, unblocked me on facebook.
Blocked me a few days later.
Then unblocked me the same day.
I did not contact her during this time.
Yesterday, I sent her an email:
I understand that you don’t want contact with me right now. Although I don’t agree with it, I do agree that it is your decision to make. This is a difficult time for both of us. All of this has made me realize that I do have some work to do on myself, particularly how my words and actions are perceived by people I care about. It’s time that I set things in motion to change the parts of my life that have been holding me back, and I’m already in the process of doing that. I hope we can get past all of this individually and be in contact again without the negative feelings attached. I’ll check in with you in say, 8 weeks time---if you still don’t want me to contact you, I will understand. I hope that you will consider contacting me once and awhile during this time to let me know how you are doing, it will give me peace of mind knowing that you are ok. Please feel free to contact me if and whenever you feel like it.
I didn't really expect her to respond, at least not right away, but she did:
You really hurt me by being so distant and acting like I wasn't important to you. I think that it is best for us to distance ourselves from one another. I refuse to get hurt again and I need to at this point in time focus on myself and my needs. I changed my number because it would just hurt me everytime you would contact me. Thus making me wish that we didn't have to be the way that we are, but after thinking about it I know that this is what is best for me. I'm doing fine, just trying to get through the rest of the semester. I hope that you are doing well. Sorry this is so short, but I have to go get ready for class.
P.S. Tell Lucas I said hi
Although that message hurt to read, (I never, EVER meant to hurt her, and never want her to hurt), it also seems like she is not shutting the door on us. However, she was not opening it, either. I need to respond, but it has to be perfect. I'm not sure where to go at this point, I don't want to push her away, but Iwant to keep the dialogue going.