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Hello. Let me take a minute to review your question.
Let me see if I understand. You are wondering if it is okay to spend a good deal of time alone and want to know if this is "normal". I think it is perfectly fine to do this, especially if you enjoy it and like being by yourself. Some people are just naturally more introverted and enjoy long periods of solitude. If you were distraught by it, that would be another situation. You may just not have high attachment needs which is perfectly fine and nothing to worry about. Does this answer your question?
Please let me know if there is anything else you need. I also wanted to comment that during particular times in life, our needs to be with others may vary. It sounds like this is a time when you are focusing on health and healing and not necessarily a time where you are connecting with new people. All this is perfectly normal and part of the different life phases we go through. If I have answered your question satisfactorily, I would greatly appreciate a positive rating. Thank you for the opportunity to be of service. Take good care.
Well, actually, I would like more people to socialize with, to have more friends besides those that I pay to help me. I have very few and the one or two I do have I don't see very much at all.
Well, actually, I don't want to be alone and do want more friends to socialize with, to talk to, to be missed and to want me around. Unfortunate, for a number of reasons, I have not had much luck making friends. Or, friends of the kind I would like to have. Online friends are nice but just not the same kind of relationship as friends one can interact or become familiar with in person. Like I said, after the extended hospitalizations, I have felt defeated physically and emotionally. Physically because of the trauma my body has been through and emotionally because of my perceived failures to sufficiently enrich my life with a proper social circle social circle or support group. Now, I'm not sure my reactions are that of someone with drawing from life, from the world, even though I still feel the need to create a life beyond the walls of my room and outside of the hospital environment. So, I hope I answered your questions and would appreciate any more insight you may have, thank you.
I am going through Well,
Yes, sometimes I do get down. Depressed me being strong word to describe my feelings right now.
Your suggestions are not unlike what I've heard before. Unfortunately, my disability and financial situation prevents me from attending as many such social events, like a support group, that would provide the possibility of having more friends or a richer social life or life for that matter.
I'm trying to hold it together and focus on what's important to me, especially my health. My family is supportive but often is at arms length, although some are better than others. I have my father who is my rock but just worry about the future.
I'm trying to hold it together and focus on the positive. But, after 15+ years of repeated attempts to not only make friends but to find employment or something meaningful to contribute to all without success is to say the least frustrating.
Speaking with you, I hope to find answers and advice to help me better mentally cope with my situation.
Maybe I'm just venting
Ilive in Illinois right outside Chicago.