thanks. i must say first that i have sought for answers by asking various experts to convoluted questions due to my current regret and confusion. please bear with me if i repeat my concerns later on.
i am a person who can not handle my own love affairs properly, such is what i have discovered recently. i think my pride and the ideas of real values in love, kindness, emotions etc have hampered me from being more resilient to others' behaviour. lets put this aside, though the personality can explain what i did and how i made the decision.
the factors of the failed relationship are as these: i finished with a guy that i truly care about 6 months ago. i ended at his requests of a three month trail separation. he made such request because of my complaints about his segregating his life from mine. i did teased him the night before. he was upset when i said not to see each other again.
he did not call in those 6 months.
10 days ago, through our mutual friend we saw each other again. he seemed happy to see me, i was angry with my friend for putting me in such situation. i did criticise about his being cautious with me while we were together and that he did not understand me with his heart. he took the criticism and asked me if we could see each other still. i did not say 'yes' or 'no', but i guess my body language indicated 'no'. he seemed upset and we parted without being able to say ' good -bye' to each other.
a few days later, under my friend's persuasion, i sent the guy a text
agreeing to catch up with each other. he did not reply.
i do not know what to do now, and i am so upset for i regret not taking up the chance to accept his suggestion. please give valid reason to support your thoughts, hence answers.
q1) i am also confused because many friends and relatives and some experts think that if a man really cared about a woman, he would jump at the opportunity to see the woman. with the absence of response, he could not have liked me much. true?
q2) i do not know what to do to turn around the situation as my stupidity or pride, whatever one calls it that has made me so unhappy now. what would be your advice based on the account i have given and why?
thanks. look forward to hearing from you soon.