KansasTherapist : Hello
KansasTherapist : I think you run the risk of being really hurt in this relationship.
KansasTherapist : Many times when someone is getting out of a bad relationship they get involved with someone else too soon.
KansasTherapist : Though your friend says he isn't ready, that may not stop things from becoming intense and then quickly cooling off.
My friends tell me to take it as it comes. I date often... its so hard for me to find someone that I feel something for. I have no clue what has come over me with him. Its not like me.
KansasTherapist : If you're willing to take that risk, you could move ahead.
The first time I saw him something clicked in me. I mean it wasnt physical thing
How do I stop these feelings?
KansasTherapist : It's good you've met someone who fits with you, just be careful with your heart.
KansasTherapist : If you want to stop the feelings I think you would need to avoid being around him.
I don't want to get hurt. I was hurt last time i was in relationship....its been almost 2 years now.
KansasTherapist : I can understand why you'd feel that way.
KansasTherapist : What do you want to do, take the risk or stop things now?
I fear that I may be running from trying to get hurt all the time... but everyone keeps saying listen to my gut. Its just so cloudy.
I guess thats my cross roads
Id love to be his friend if I knew how to control my feelings or not come across needy or interested.
KansasTherapist : There is some risk in every relationship, but some are more likely to turn bad than others. This is a high risk situation. You have to really believe it's worth a try to wait and see what happens.
What does one do?
KansasTherapist : Because he seems like someone really special to you, it may be worth it to be his friend and hope fore the best.
Yah. I guess that would be the best result.
KansasTherapist : You're very welcome.