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Cats can certainly be trained, but they are more difficult to train than dogs, as they are solitary creatures (they do not adhere to pack statuses). This means that training a cat is more geared towards helping a cat find new learned behaviors, as they will not strive to please a "pack leader".
In short, cats respond best to positive reinforcement, meaning that they will perform an action in order to receive a reward. In this case, they have learned that if they make enough noise, your husband will come out to the garage to give them the attention that they need.
This is partially good, because cats do need interaction and attention from humans, and they need to have a way to announce their need (like when they are crying for food to tell you that they are hungry).
However, so long as they learn that crying leads to your husband going outside to pay attention to them, they will cry anytime they want attention.
Since cats are routine creatures, it might be helpful for him to set up several times a day that he goes out at the same time to spend time with the cats.
Initially, they will be crying for him to come outside and pay attention to them, but with a little patience, a good deal of ignoring the crying (and possibly some ear plugs), they will eventually grow accustomed to him coming out at the same time every day for attention, and they will cry less when they don't expect him to be there.
So what can be done if he is the problem and likes the interaction
So what's the answer?
So what's the solution?
Unfortunately, I am unqualified to give advice on human behavior, and inter-relationship advice. I am only licensed to deal with animals. That would be more of a question geared towards our relationship experts. Would you like me to have your question moved for one of our relationship experts to handle?
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I apologize for the delay. Now that you have talked to your husband and he still feels very strongly about being with his cats and he has shown you that he doesn't care about how this is affecting your marriage or how it is making you feel, you need to decide for yourself if this is something you will continue to put up with or not. If you continue to be with your husband then you will have to just forget about your own feelings when it comes to him and the cats. You can even find a hobby to take your mind off of the issue. Find something that you love to do that takes you away from the house. But if you decide that you have had enough of the situation because you know that he won't change and you know that this is how he has always been and will continue to be, you will have to leave him and the cats behind and move forward with your own life. Finding your own happiness as your husband has in his cats. It is out there, you just have to make the first step toward it and get out of a bad situation. It will be hard, but you will find happiness in the end. I hope that I have given you some insight on your issue. Thank you for choosing Just Answer!