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Hello, I am Rafael. Thanks for asking your question - I'm here to support you. (Information posted here is not private or confidential but public).
I do think there is always a chance for a rich and useful experience as long as both people do shoe mutual respect, caring, understanding and support in realistic ways. You have just started to know each other and shared a little during his time there. You know he does not want to be hurt again and that you are not ready because of your "Business ties". Then my recommendation is for you to be totally honest and open towards him, so you could better understand each other, current situation, challenges and from there choose what you want to explore and afford or not. In this way, nobody would be hurting the other, there would be no neglect or misunderstanding and whatever happens with this relationship, it would evolve in a way you both would feel enriched by it, whether it grows and takes you to be together or become good friends.
Then please do to push yourselves, be patient, honest and consistent taking one step at a time, developing an open dialogue so you both know how you feel, what you want, expect and fear, and you would work from there in creating something meaningful and fulfilling, whether as friends or as partners in the future, nobody knows, too soon to say, only time would show. Just be realistic, honest and proactive.
I will be here to support you as necessary so please feel free to contact me. Thank you.
What do you think about me initiating contact, even though he does respond?
I do not see any problem about you taking initiatives, but if there are the only ways you share, while he remains totally passive not doing the same, then that would be a red flag.
People could be shy but to take initiatives like this does not require a person to be an extrovert, it takes maturity, respect and caring.
Ye, Hello, I am here.
I sort of sense "danger" with me initializing.
should i not contact him until he contacts me?