KansasTherapist : Hello
KansasTherapist : It definately seems as though you've reached a decision point in your relationship.
KansasTherapist : If, after four years, he still isn't prepared to to get married, it would be surprising if he ever would. If getting married is something you want to do, he seems like the wrong guy for you. If, on the other hand, marriage isn't a big issue for you, but you still enjoy the relationship, you might want to wait to see what happens.
KansasTherapist : Has he ever said he's interested in marriage?
Yes, he says he is not ready. He is divorced and had a nasty split. I've held on bc he has always said he does want to get married again. Would you just stay with him until he goes - about three months from now. We were also planning to go to a family wedding (his) in a couple of weeks ...
KansasTherapist : What do you think he would say if you told him you don't want to wait to get married anymore?
Are you still there? having trouble with reply
KansasTherapist : Payees, I'm here.
KansasTherapist : Let's switch to Q&A mode. That worlds better.
KansasTherapist : Payees was supposed to be yes. My spell check is crazy.