Hi! I believe I can be of help with this issue.
You are wise to be concerned and cautious. But the strategy you want to use to reflect your wise caution is not workable. I'd like to offer a different strategy.
First, your strategy is to try to hold back. The idea is that if you move slowly, you'll be better able to make decisions that are good decisions and to not have the fire burn out as well.
But we aren't built that way: if you're emotionally on fire, you aren't going to get anywhere by artificially dousing the fire. So the alternative strategy?
Go fast, feel your feelings. BUT, don't make any long term decisions until the fire has become more manageable and you are both more rational about each other.
There's no reason to be rational and calm and collected right now. Be hot and giddy, that's what you two feel. Just don't let the present emotion guide your future life. Make an agreement to take it one week at a time right now, to really, really enjoy each other. If after a series of weeks that have become some months the two of you see that you really have an abiding connection to each other more than just the heat of the passion, then you can begin to make some long term decisions. Until then, it's not the right time.
Okay, I wish you the very best!
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