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Thank you Ryan for making me feel it is okay to rule with my head and not my heart. I appreciate what you're saying about the distance being an issue, it is for the both of us, which is why we BOTH discussed and agreed at the time that we would have to move on with our lives. Easier said than done though. We've continued to keep contact, as heart breaking as it is, but the other day decided that we needed to stop as it was just giving us hope (of course to your point above about it being difficult to move on keeping the contact). It was then that I decided to meet up with the Aus guy, thought I needed to make myself move on. I only knew him for two weeks before I went back to the US (whereas US guy was 2 months). My fear is that I'm only going out with this guy because he is here and I don't want to be alone. My other fear is the drawbacks you mentioned - what if US guy is so right for me? I see it, we were amazing together, and I feel like I'm testing - maybe keeping my options open with US guy, by both of us trying to move on for a few months, we may realise it's not working and we are right for each other, so something may happen in the future. It sounds selfish and dangerous, but I've been in the situation before, waiting for someone overseas, and it didn't work out well. Maybe a part of me is trying to validate if his feelings (US guy that is) are real for me, given it's still fresh and we've only been a part a couple of weeks... Any more thoughts?
You are right though, I don't want a long distance relationship...