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Hello, I am sorry to know about your situation. This is the way to unfriend someone in facebook. First you sign in your account, then you go to the person's profile and choose the option "unfriend".
Ok, that I've got figured out. The problem is that I don't want her looking up my family and asking for friend requests from them.
Unhappily she would still be able to see your friends-contacts.
So there's no way I can have her looking them up on FB and sending them a friend request?
Unhappily there is no way for a person already added as your friend-contact o not, not to see your friends and contacts and to stop their ability to contact them , sending requests for being included as friends.
My recommendation is for you to tell your wife and family about this person right away, so they could be alerted and not to engage in any communication, just denying her requests for friendship.
You have not done anything wrong, and need to protect yourself and prevent any uncomfortable issue around this person. In case you delay or avoid talking to your family and alerting them about it, then you would have to afford further potential issues, and then suspicion could arise if they speculate why you decided to hide this from them. Does it make sense?
I suppose that this the only way to do it. I'm going to unfriend her and then just tell my family to expect trouble if they are contacted. I'm just concerned that one of them accept out of curiosity, especially my wife and then gets fed a whole lot of nonsense. Fortunately I can always show them that I received the friendship request yesterday and I immediately realized it was a mistake. I just feel sorry for this woman, she's in therapy as it is, she's been abused and now thinks she loves me after a telephone call. The affect on her is going to be really bad when I unfriend her on FB.
Then please it could be a wise idea to send her a caring, empathic but clear message g letting her know how much you hope she gets better but being clear you are married and do not want any form of romantic involvement with her. In this way she would know why you chose to unfriend her. That's the best you can do.
I know her situation is not my problem and no fault of mine but I'm worried that this will really be the last straw for her when what she saw as a possible way (me) and did try to comfort her yesterday now turns and runs.
This has been an isolated episode and you are confronting it in an assertive way, then you do not need to worry about it. She needs support, your family will be alerted about it, and then no confusion nor other issues could arise from it based on such assertive approach.
FB and other social networking, as well as other sites allowing people to find and contact people, create potential issues, and we all need to learn to cope with it. The sooner and more assertively we handle things, the better we would be avoiding situations we do not need nor deserve. She is obviously overwhelmed by her personal life, and you can show empathy but not to become a victim undermining your personal and family well-being.
Ok, so I suppose that is going to be the to deal with this. I was hoping for a way of her not been allowed to contact my family period....If this does not go well then I'll just have to report it to the police.
In case such a scenario appears, then you should need to seriously consider such option, no doubt. By now, focus on what you could, can and need to dot o take good care of things and prevent further problems from arising.
You're very welcome.