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What steps should we take together to be certain we are creating

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What steps should we take together to be certain we are creating a healthy balance? I really do not want either of us to feel like we have to "answer" to the other because we are both choosing to be with the other. We always communicate and both he and I make certain the other one feels loved and appreciated. This is really our only issue and I want it resolved sincerely, XXXXX XXXXX on the surface.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Howard Wise replied 5 years ago.
You are asking some very good questions.

A healthy balance becomes a reality when each member of the couple is sensitive to the others needs and feelings. In a healthy relationship there should never be the need to answer to each other because each partner is aware of what is acceptable behavior and what is not acceptable behavior. So, that's the solution here.

Your boyfriend needs to be aware of what you can live with, and what you cannot live with, and he has to behave within these guidelines. If he has a problem with that then it's possible that the two of you are not compatible enough to be in a healthy relationship with each other.

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