Hi, thank you for your response.
I think you offer great advices. I have some additional information for you to consider before I accept answers So here it goes.
My boyfriend is sharing custody with his ex wife, and he is currently going through physical health issues. But I feel his mother is using his health issue and custody as excuses to prevent him from moving on to his own life.
She is extremely rude. example: at lunch and dinner time, she ONLY pays attention to her own son, and makes statement like "Oh, son, chew this vegetable throughly, it is not soft enough." she would ignore me and treat me as if I was non-existence. It makes me very uncomfrotable.
My boyfriend and I only dated each other for less than 1 year and she already makes rude comments like, "You cannot run away from his daughter forever. Eventually, you are going to meet her." Excuse me? I only dated your son 10 months, who are YOU to tell me when to come in the messy situation and start to take care of HIS responsibility?
I drive to my boyfriend's house once a month because we are living far away from each other. I'd NEVER consider myself as going there for a vacation, I cook, clean, always bring a lot of food for his whole family to enjoy. Yet, it is still not good enough for her. She never at one time said thank you.
I am inclined to believe she has astonishing sense of entitlement issues. Or she has serious mental illness. She's yell, scream, and CRY for no reasons. I don't know what her problems are.
My boyfriend has put her in her place once after she yells at me. Guess what happened? This old hag apologized to HIM, not to ME! How can this be logical? She should have apologized to ME because she yelled at ME! Is she that ignorant or she just playing dumb!
I am really at my wits end. I love my boyfriend with all my heart. He is a very honorable, honest, loving person, but with his mother constantly staying in the middle, it is very diffciult to move this relationship forward.
So here comes my next two questions.
A. Should I confront his mother one on one. Put her in her place once and for all.
b. Should I just give her the silent treatment. Because after all, she is a nobody to me after all
c. Should I stop doing extra stuff when I drive to my boyfriend's house to see him. Because I feel she has taken me for granted.
I hate her! Help.