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Can you wait for me until 11.30? truly hope so. got more to cover.
Yes, what time zone?
I am central
Half hour from now
I am here now
you with me?
Whew, I was a mess yesterday.
talk to me
I was so upset last night. Mad at myself for feeling this way.
you seemed okay you needed the tough love...where are things for you now
you gotta take that judgment away it is not helpful and only makes it worse
I know, but I am very hard on myself.
I know that but that only compounds things for you
Ok, should I just keep thinking I am fabulous and adorable?
and you are that!
there is my spunk!
remember we talked a while back about my cheesy suggestion of setting up some romantic old times when things were fabulous?
and does that inspire you at all?
I can hear how down you are because usually you are writing a lot and very talkative
I know, right?
I still try to put funny things in the already tried column...
so lets just relax and go easy on yourself....you do not need all the answers now...you just need a little self empathy
yes and I always smile big
I figured you'd get a kick out of them
lets play a silly game....
Ok, so just take it one day at a time?
of course take it one day at a time
I don't know if it's the writer in me, but I feel like I need to know the storyline far out sometimes...
That makes total sense and I think we all need that as limbo/ambivalence is a very tough place to be
I think it is hard because as I said yesterday, I sometimes read other people's questions and I'm like, "Damn, I have it so good!"
it is all relative.....and we each have our own burdens
so do you want to play a silly game?
no we are already playing twister
I want you to leave your husband!
how did you feel reading that?
I'd want to know why you felt that way
Leaving means breaking up a family
no its not about what I feel it is about what you feel when I say it...this is the game...play along
Ok...I'd be sad breaking up a family. I'd be scared being by myself.
I'd worry I'd be alone until I was 100 and someone would find me surrounded by cats
and bags of old mcdonalds burgers?
I'd worry that i left something good and tried to replace it with something not as good
come on stay with me...serious
I see what's out there and it's not pretty
I get hit on by married men
Who have no shame admitting they are married
I am just saying, I feel like that is the world out there
And here I am with a guy who is honest and takes care of me
ok. Now believe it or ot, there are others out there that if I asked them that question they might say something like....I would be relieved and happy and desirous of datig. I dont love my husband and am so glad...I am going to take that step.
That is not you and not what you want! You just are struggling to regain some passion
Ugh, who wants to date?
thats my point!
so lets work on the reconnection rather than the space of nothingness
so how can you do that with him? what does he want as well?
I think he is content. Is that possible?
yes and maybe that is why you feel bored
He is not a man of many wants.
we need some spice coming from him too
How do I do that? Clearly, I can bring the spice from my end.
He is not going to be one to plan a surprise...
yes clearly for sure and maybe that is the pice that is missing for you that it is you that needs to do it but we all have to rely on our strengths ad that is yours
so grab the bull by the horns and get spicey
Ok, ok, I will be Mrs. Dash
come on stop making me laugh and get into it
this humor really is fabulous but it prevents you from really gettig to it
did I stump you?
ok then what are you thinking?
Ok, so I have already planned dates for us
I guess I have to kick it up in the bedroom?
We go out a lot with other couples. I am trying to limit those.
yes but even before that...romance and setting it all up even before the bedroom can be exciting
plan something just the two of you...romantic restaurant
canoeing on a lake
Remember we have two precocious children
couples massage and then sushi at the bar
i do remember but couples are allowed and should have alone time
Please tell that to my kids...they insist I am married to them!
as do mine...but it is imperative that we take that time!
how old are they?
Ok, I will plan some romantic dates
you are a better mom by doing so
5 and 9
and if you dont I would feel restless too!!!!!
you could even plan an overnight somewhere together sans children....oh no did i just say that? YES I did
and that is what I want you to be!
Ok...I will work on it.
I hope so....it will be so nice for you
and by the way you havent tried the whole enchilada but now you will
right a steamy chapter and then go live it out!
It was more like a mini taco
did I just write right for write? hoy moly
then plan some spice on a taco budget
yes, you did, but i didn't want to bust out my red pen.
Thanks for your help.
you are healed?
that wasnt hard!
Now, write it was your pleasure and I can carry on...
it is always my pleasure as you know! :-)
Likewise. Talk soon!
this has been an awful hour so talk soon
seriously...I am glad to be here for you.
the worst, huh?
Cool. Heading to animal shelter to start my cat collection
dont forget to stop at mcdonalds and load up
Yum. Perfect combo.I will be quite the catch!
thanks for the laughs...now go get spicey ad plan something!