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Well here goes... To start off, Ive been separated for about…

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Well here goes... To start off...

Well here goes...
To start off, I've been separated for about a year now and my divorce will be final come mid July. I moved into my current apt. back in Nov. of '11 and live by myself. A few days after moving in I received a Facebook friend request from a girl I have known for many years and I accepted. We started chatting on FB and I invited her over to check out my new place. Much to my surprise she actually showed up and we spent the entire night swapping our marriage horror stories. We talked for well over 5 1/2 hours without any hesitation or uneasiness. I was as if we had known each other our entire lives. Never was there a feeling of being uncomfortable and we were open and honest with each other. I had known about her "situation" for years and it was a topic we hit hard on. She is "separated" from her husband but due to financial reasons and the fact they have two little girls together they agree to live under one roof. He has a separate bedroom in the basement while she sleeps upstairs. I know all this to be true because I have met her husband and confirmed it. They mutually agree that they can go out and date but have laid out some ground rules due to the kids being at home. I know...don't tell me...screwed up huh?
I have been dating her now for about six months and have fallen head over heels in love with her and the feelings are reciprocated. She means the world to me and her "situation" at home is a constant thorn in my side. Am I freakin' out of my mind to think that she'll ever want to leave her "comfortable" home life and spend her life with me? I'm being very patient and giving her all the time she needs to make sure that it's not some rash decision. I never pressure her or for that fact, bring up leaving her husband because that is not my place to do so. If she intends to leave I want it to be a conscious decision on her part. Have you ever heard of such a story? If so, is there any signs I can look for? I'm going crazy thinking this may be all in vain!

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Counselor: Dr. Mark, Psychotherapist replied 11 years ago

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Customer reply replied 11 years ago

Some things I left out...
She goes out of her way to make time for me. I had 2 anxiety attacks over the last 4 months and she was there at the hospital with me. When my back spasms kept me from doing some normal household chores she came over and helped me. I say this because she lives an hour away and could easily have said to heck with it. When we went through a tough time she came all the way over to my place(not for sex)but just to talk and get things straightened out.

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Counselor: Dr. Norman Brown, Marriage Therapist replied 11 years ago

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