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it sounds a bit absurd to me too my friend.
Totally agree - its got me in a real state
I can imagine. I feel for you.
you do something nice and this is the payback. its an old laptop and you had a life before her
why she wont take your calls is upsetting too
Yeah - its a long distance relationship so using a laptop helps.
She's started changing things like pictures of us on Facebook etc to just pictures of her
ahh that can make things a bit harder and she can feel mistrust just because of the distance and not something you are doing just her mind going a bit nutsy
i would write her an email with loving reassurance
we are planning to move in together but again she has a go at me saying I am not doing enough
she can't afford to do it on her own
I live with my parents at the mo
I know she is only having a go at me cos she wants to be together
yes and shes getting nutsy cause she wants all of you and that is why she has latched onto this
But the whole silent treatment has come just from the name that I used as the password
can I send an attachment of a text she sent?
women get weird...I am one of them so I can say that
we're all different i guess!
yes but we get injured about some silly stuff
Does she really want to split up over something like that tho? seems trivial?
i dont think so I think she needs the lovong reassurance from you
I'm always trying to reassure her - she's been let down in the past by others, and I am determined not to be the same
She says it clearly to me in that text. When she says not helping my confidence...that we can work with
She gets down a lot tho too
I have never cheated on her or anything but I feel really arrived cos it was just a password
would you like some help to construct a lovely email?
that would be of great help
ok let me work some magic. I am here with you while I am typing
can I send you one more attachment please
this one talks of her ex husband who after not being together starts texting her and sending a copy of their wedding DVD to her
he text her on thursday at 3am
I will wait for that before I begin
I think that probably had something to do with why she might be latching on to this password XXXXX
cos she wants to add him on playstation network/facebook despite the fact they are no longer married
show me the next thing and then I will work on something
i've told her that the woman who's name it was was just a friend - nothing more... and i knew her years before I was with my partner
she seems to be a bit tough on you as you know
This wall is definitely something from her past and sadly you are getting the brunt of it.
so lets work some loving magic....here goes.
Honey, I am so sad that you are so hurt by this password XXXXX I never want you to feel hurt....i want you to feel loved and safe. I only want you, I only love you and i will do whatever you need to show you that!
You should have all the confidence in the world because you are beautiful and loving and just delicious to me.
Please lets talk about this...it truly was nothing more than a password. You are my present, nobody else.
We will be together and we will live together and I want to get through this. I acknowledge your feelings around this so let me reassure you...you are the only one! I love you.
I think I am going to handwrite that in a letter
perfect! You are a very loving man. I truly commend your willingness and openness
Do you think it will take time for her to realise that no thing was meant by the password?
it could only because she has these past hurts
but hang in there
thank you for your help!
I will click on the accept button too
it has been my pleasure. will you come back and let me know how you are doing?
I honestly love her with all my heart -
yes I will
thank you so much
Do I just log back in here and give the feedback?
Ok I will definitely do that - many thanks