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Seems like a bumpy ride so far. What would make you believe that it would be anything different if you were to get more serious with her. I commend your honesty when she asked you about seeing anyone. does your current girlfriend have knowledge about this? I also can't imagine your feelings are too strong for your current girl if you can be taken with this other woman.
That is telling in itself, but I am not sure ending with her to get another date with this girl is the way to go either.
of course the girl I am seeing now has no knowledge
and Im not a cheater
just in this one instance did not want to pas son the opportunity
ok but you are willing to sacrifice something to grab a date with this other one.
I would pay attention to that.
yea, the girl I am seeing now I like but dont know if I see a future
im not in a super rush to get married but if the right one comes along I would get serious
but she really has to be special of course
that is what I am hearing as well.
ok so lets play this out....
you end it with the current one now with no guarantee that new girl will go out with you...can you live with that?
does it concern you at all that new girl placed many demands on night one?
umm...i thought about that
could be a red flag.
often we never pay attention to the red flag as our chemistry clouds it.
but she grew up in morrocco
I am not saying you dont pursue her but just know that it exists
and is from a conservative jewish family
so you are saying it is cultural?
so yea..culturaly she is different
but I am attracted to that
and in conservative jewish families the women tell the men when to call and how to proceed? said with a smile of course
but for all she knows I could have already ended things with my gf
but she wont even give me the opportunity to go out with her again
yes but maybe she is waiting for you to tell her that
like I said if she just doesnt like me....I can accept it
but I just dont believe that
that doesnt seem to be it
thats true....maybe she is waiting for me to tell her that
i think she likes you but you didnt behave the way she prescribed
I guess I should just not talk to her until I end things with the current girl, huh?
so if that is her culture and she may act like that in a relationship with you are you okay with that?
no risk, no reward I guess
I would be clear for yourself that you do want to end things with current girl
I dont think she is that overbearing
just a confident girl who doesnt want to be treated like a mistress
and then if you do I would reach out to the other one to let her know you are single and would like to take her on a proper date
which I understand
I get it.
I guess I made her feel stupid
and you sound like a gentleman
and now she is giving it back to me
but you also need to be fair to your current girl with whom right now you are with but not being open
I would not tel her about another girl
but I would just end things
but part of me doesnt want to do it until I see if te other one will give me another chance
selfish I guess...but we are all a little selfish
yes hedging your bet.
she answers my emails an text messages right away
but just wont go out with me
well she is clear then about her rules and that is ok so it is up to you how you want to proceed
so would u suggest I leave her alone until I end things with this one
or keep in contact?
hmmmm. whats the lag time?
what do u mean?
cause you arent sure you want to play it both ways.
lag time...between you deciding to end it and ending it?
soon I would say
If it were me...I would want you to be clear first and then reach out to me
i would respect that way more
i think u are right
so maybe just back off for a little
remember your behavior as well will be indicators for her and she will be watching that too
and then when I am available I will re-connect
yes and with a little hope and prayer she will be available.
i guess u answered my question
thanks for the help
I think you did! I was just here as the sounding board
i believe everyone gets 2nd chances so I will keep my fingers crossed
you can always come back and ask for me and I will be here to support you
have a good night. I will accept the charges
my fingers crossed too. Be a gentleman with your current as i am sure she has some strong feelings for you.