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You are entitled to your feelings for sure, but I think you would do well to be supportive and say although I am bummed cause i would love to see you this weekend, I hope you have a great time skiing with the boys.
Can you do that?
Then you go for a massage, mani-pedi and movie night with the girls!
i know that i can say that
but i still feel upset
i get its a great weekend to go skiing because there's fresh snow
but his first incling was to ditch me this weekend
and he's like i get your upset, i'll make it up to you, but i really still think its unfair
i know you are and its ok but you gotta give him some space or else he will just feel suffocated
dont think of it as he is ditching you think of it in terms of the snow!
im not stopping him from going though
but its still not ok and i cant pretend like it is
but sont make it so impossible for him beforehand
i just keep feeling like i always have to give up what i want so that he's happy
so that he can have his time away
but what about me, i doesnt feel like he even considered my feelings
i know you feel that waqy but you havent really this is a new space and if it gets to the point where it is happening more and more then we can talk about it and see where to go from there but right now lets let it ride
you can be happy too this weekend
you dont have to be miserable.
i know i can be happy too
but i just feel neglected, first its talking on the phone, we don't do that anymore minus him telling me that he wants to ditch me
good thats what i want for you that if he goes skiing or is at a party with friends that you can still feel great in the world
and now its our time
at some point it will make it clear to you if this is enough and if he is for you based on what he can give and if you need more then you will know and we can talk about it
do something great this weekend for yourself