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You are faced with a difficult dilemma. While you and your boyfriend lived together he was not worried about your parent's feelings. Yet there was good reasons why you moved back in with your parents and I suspect some of it had to do with his saying things he didn't believe or follow through on.
You may have little to do to influence his decision but since you are separated he is in a better situation to call it quits and he can put the blame on you. I would agree that you need to keep the dialogue going and work it out. He says he needs to continue to talk to him but is not ready to meet your parents. I wonder if that would be constructive anyway since people who hate others who are not their nationality or religion are the least likely to change their mind.
To answer your last question it is highly likely that he is just using you for support and will someday leave. This is because of two things that you have clearly described. First you separated from him and he is now living on his own and second he is intimidated by a future where he will remain an outcast from your family.
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How did you suspect that he wasn't good on follow through sometimes?
How did you suspect he wasn't always the best on follow through?
How did you suspect he wasn't always the best on follow through? And also why are you suggesting that I keep dialogue open with him if it is highly likely that he will leave me?
Sorry i didn't realize i asked the same question three times...i now understand how this works :)
As to his not following through I presumed that when you said you left "to repair our damaged relationship" you meant there were problems and the most reported reason people give for damage in a relationshiip is poor communication and lack of trust in what their partner says.
Mu second assumption was simple. If you give up on maintaining the dialogue he will inevitably misinterpret you as rejecting him.
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So what do I do? Stay with him and wait for the inevitable, him leaving me in the future?
That is the eternal question. If you love him as much as you imply in your request I would recommend sticking it out because my dour predictions may be wrong. Love is an intangible element that can change people. Realizing that someone really cares for you when you feel alone in the world is what I faced when I realized all of my family was dead and my wife was my only true love, It changed me and I became more tolerant of her as your boyfriend may do as well. I hope so.
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