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I am reminded of the old saying that computers sometimes make mistakes but it takes a human to really screw things up. You have a longstanding relationship with Sherry that has survived despite the wrath of her sister and her husband. Somehow those conflicts have been resolved but their reverberations have reached Sherry's mother who is expressing her anger in terms of an ultimatum.
Anytime you decide to start a new relationship before you end your present one you will have human conflict. The issues of betrayal, jealousy, mistrust and anger or more exactly wrath of a scorned spouse will come up when you don't end one relationship, spend some time alone and then start another one.
One way to deal with Sherry's mothers wrath is to talk to Sherry and decide to postpone the relationship for a while. Then Sherry can stay at her mother's and save up some money so that she can move out and you can get a chance to heal after such an arduous divorce.
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I don't think either of us want to give up on the other right now. I feel her love, and I am so deeply in love with her. We just see each other when we can, I just hate having to sneak around like school kids to date each other. It was understandable when I was still married, but I am divorced now, so had her sister, brother-inlaw, and my ex-wife not played the games that they did it would not have created the environment that it did for us to have to continue to sneak around. Sherry is planning on trying to find a teaching position where I live and eventually moving, but as stated earlier, this has to be done slowly for her autistic son. I would like the freedom to be able to get together with her and her son on the weekends or holidays, to be around her son more, but I guess this is just not going to be an option right now. I assume rather than telling Sherry how lonely it is without her, just show her support in knowing that someday we will be together?
Thanks for your time,
Yes Steven you have the right idea in being supportive. This is also a good time to look at your loneliness and neediness and how it effects you. You might discover something you need to change in yourself so that you don't get so desperate in the future and try to work things out rather than find a substitute. The best predictor of future behavior is previous behavior unless you make an effort to change yourself.
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