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Hello, thank for joining me. Please forgive any typos as I get very immersed in my work with you and sometimes my brain goes faster than my fingers.
You feel betrayed and you are entitled to those feelings. It is painful to learn of something that now causes you anguish. My goal here is to help you deal with getting the obsessive thoughts from your mind.
Obviously contact remains as he has a child with her, but he is with you now and he has not made any changes or told you that he wants to be with her.
it is not uncommon that people do not fully disclose the full extent of their prior relationships and they may even find it easier to minimize the relationship out of a desire to have their new love feel like they are the only one they have ever felt intensely for. I am no saying this behavior is right or wrong i am only bringing it up as it is more common than any of us would like to believe. My goal would be for you to get passed this place of hurt and focus on the wonderful things in your relationship with him and your child together and less on her and what took place long ago.
no of course not, he never said he wanted to be with her, and i have thought of the fact that he didn't fully disclose the nature of their relationship. but i feel that my trust in him is shaken up and i am wondering whether this behavior of mine is hiding something else. i love my husband and the life we have together but i just feel that he shouldn't have been hiding this from especially when i had been asking him several times about the nature of their relationship. and now that he is about to visit them for a day i am freaking out cause he never shares what or how he spends the day with them and i get pretty upset, that's what happened the last time he visited them in november.i need to put this behind me cause it's taking so much energy and i have a 5 month old to look after. it's not fair on anyone.