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A pastor had an emotional, nonsexual affair with a colleagues

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A pastor had an emotional, nonsexual affair with a colleagues wife over 7 years ago. He left the ministry and tried to repair his marriage, but ended up getting a divorce. He went through a restoration process with his denomination, has been restored to ministry and has asked God for forgiveness for his sin. The woman with whom he had the relationship is also divorced. The two still love each other and would like to begin a relationship again.

Certainly there would be people who do not approve of this rekindled love.
Does their disapproval mean a new relationship would be wrong?
Would the pastor's ministry be harmed or destroyed if the two reunited?
If the two kept their relationship private, is that lying or creating a privacy boundary?
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 5 years ago.
Hello and Thank You for consulting Just Answer. Many pastors divorce and remarry more often than perceived. People will frown upon the relationship because it began as a result of an affair. The disapproval of other people does not mean that the relationship is wrong. The other people must find it in their harts to forgive the transgressions of the pastor and his new soul mate. If the pastor desired to continue with his ministry, it may be best to relocate to another community or church in which people would not know all of the details of his personal life history. There is no need to keep the relationship private. We are talking about adults here who are trying to live by the Word. Be happy that you have found someone to share the rest of your life wife.

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