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2 months ago I reconnected with a friend of 26 years. We are clearly made for each other. He travelled to see me at Xmas. spent a great night together. Before this 6 hours a day on Yahoo, 20 or more texts a day, numerous phone calls everyday and one in the a.m. at 8 every single day. We have so many common interests and have fallen in love. When he left here on Dec 24th to pick up his 26 year old son from airport our plan was to spend Xmas weekend together at various houses then go to his home in atlanta and spend weeks together to see how I liked living there etc. When his son arrived he was distraught (I was told by text). His Uncle had committed suicide the day before and the son was quite upset. He went to Philadelphia (where the unclke was from) to see the family and go to the funeral. As I was not sure what was happening (at this time I had not spoke to Lee on the phone since 24th only text messages that were fairly short). Although he was telling me how much he missed me and thought of me etc. I understood his situation and realized our plans were no longer, however I sent a text to ask about New Years and he replied with "being with you on new years would be great but i can't see it happening , i am sorry but i have too many other things to deal with. I will call when dust settles. Thank you for your love and support but I do not feel I have the cycles (?) right now for a relationship. It is not fair to you or I. I hope you understand. Timing is everything. Perhaps we could try as a couple in a couple of weeks. I replied with an understanding text, told him I was here for him. I have not had a phone call from Lee since Dec 24th. He texts maybe 2x a day with small and boring texts. Everything has completely changed. What does all this mean? Do I completely ignore him? Do I show him I care by texting back small exchanges. Does he need to be completely on his own? I also asked if this was his polite way of dumping me and he said no that he just needed time. Is he not interested and hasn't thte heart to say it. I do not know how to handle this situation. Since it is 2012 I had enough stuff to deal with in 2011 and this was exciting and real. What should i do. Forgot to mention I am 52 and he is 60. Thank you Wendy
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Customer reply replied 5 years ago
i am 52 he is 60. I am very confused with this. what happened in a week to change ehat e had to this? i will ignore his texts but I would like more indepth of how someone can be planning a future one minute and the next life is done. I feel a fool contacting him now but it hurts alot inside.I feel a fool for planning a lifetime with this man and now he is gone. No phone calls just little texts. i have never experienced this before sorry. By "motivating" to text me I belirve you mean "he feels he has to.......is that right?
Customer reply replied 5 years ago
i am 52 he is 60. I am very confused with this. what happened in a week to change ehat e had to this? i will ignore his texts but I would like more indepth of how someone can be planning a future one minute and the next life is done. I feel a fool contacting him now but it hurts alot inside.I feel a fool for planning a lifetime with this man and now he is gone. No phone calls just little texts. i have never experienced this before sorry. By "motivating" to text me I belirve you mean "he feels he has to.......is that right? and finally why would I contact him in 3 weeks......will his desire have changed. i feel like I have been used immensely. What turmoil did this man go thru?
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I am 52 my boyfriend of 2 months is 6. We have kjnown each other for 25 years. Just both in relqtionships and recently connected. everything was wonderful untill he went to pick his son up from airport in Toronto and his son was shaken by the suicide death of his (sons) uncle. They spent one day in Toronto and drove to Philadelphia, where the uncle was from to stay with other side3 of family and attend funeral. . My boyfriend got back to atlanta yesterday. During the week between Xmas and NY my boyfriend has completely changed. He is distant.....less than meaningful texts. Used to talk on phone 10x day, emails, texting 30x a day, yahoo messenger when he was working. i was to spend Xmas with him and his family then we were leaving for Atlanta where I was going to stay for a few weeks and see how I enjoyed the area. We were then going to look for a house. I barely hear from him now. I sent a text last night because I have had it. 2012 is the beginning of a New Year. 2011 was full of alot of bad things for me and I refuse to go thru that again. He assures me I am not just 'another notch" but he has been distant and is not sure why and a bit shy. He says we need to talk. I have asked for an email to explain what has happened to the man I loved. He once had everything and lost it , claimed bankruptcy and now lives in a basement apartment....has a goodn job but is pretty much starting over. Could this be affecting him? Do I ignore him? Do I text now and then to show I care? I need an answer and don't know how to handle this situation. We are not children. this is like a high school game and I am getting more and more bothered by it. Please help me.
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I am waiting for an answer still. Thx wendy


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