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Hi - I've been seeing a guy on and off for the last 6.5 years. He's 38, I'm 43. He has terrible health problems which I am sure affect his reaction to things. We got back together in July after a 2.5 year break. He suffers with fybromyalgia, spinal stenosis, arthritis of the neck and sciatica so is in considerable pain all the time. He ended it with me on boxing day as i told him i felt invisible - had gone to a lot of effort to make sure him and his son got what they wanted for christmas. Since he stopped working 4 years ago I've been helping them both with food and anything that they needed out of necessity. I earn good money and am able to do this and didnt begrudge it. Because I told him how I felt he ended it and now wont even speak to me. I feel kind of used but feel there is more to this than him just wanting to end the relationship. He's a complicated person at the best of times - even his own family dont really bother with him. We live 75 miles apart and its me that does the travelling as he's no longer able to travel long distances. I've always supported him - have tried not to get annoyed with his mood swings. Any advice would be useful!!
I'd also like to add that he told me i made him feel worthless because I'd told him I was not happy - I can only imagine that this is because he feels worthless in himself due to what he is no longer able to do and not because of what i said.