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hi, i am really in confusion that i want to ask you as it is very private, i hope if you will not publish then it is better, actually all the things that you know already is still as it is as i cannot do anything about this, what i can do is try to be more independent only , maybe i can find the way that what is better for me because being in a thirtees i still cannot find the right mate who is everything,with whom i canstart family,as i also did the mistake, it was by chance, i fell in love witha guy who works with me, it was for short period of 4 months maybe, we share our feelings through eyes, maybe if we are still together until this time then we will be together, although he has gf and i am alos in a relationship, it happen to me, i still have feelings for him that it still does not fade although its been 4 months or more to separate, actually what happened iswe both fired from that job and we separated, he did not tell anything to me except he use to talk about work whenever he met in that short period,now he is lost,and sometimes i got a miscal from blocked caller, i guess it was him but not sure, so i am in complete illusion that what should i do next, if i get this man then i do not have to be in a relationship with married man, so i still hoping that i should meet him one day, is it possible?
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  psychlady replied 5 years ago.

Anything can happen. I feel however that to an extent you want this relationship with this guy to fill a void you are not getting by being in relationship with married guy. If this is about the loneliness of being with someone who can't commit then you should distance yourself from this unfulfilling relationship and work on why you made that choice. It is probably significant that you chose someone at work. This can just be a way of disconnecting from this relationship that cannot go anywhere. It is up to you to decide what is healthy for you. Choosing a work relationship isn't healthy either.


You don't have to be in your work relationship whether this guy comes back or not. You don't need someone to save you. If you like someone then make an effort to see if you can get together. But the circumstances have to be healthy. It could be him. but it's up to you to decide if everything can work together in his world and yours.


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