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Hi are you there?
Nancy are you there?
i am her
Hi, how are you holding up tonight?
im doing my best how r u
I am fine thanks for asking
I have read your post and am sorry you are going through such a terrible time
this is something a lot of people are going through right now
I hear this alot in my office every day
but it sounds as if there are other wrinkles in this for you
yes unfortunately lots
can you tell me just a little bit more about your situation? where do you live and what kind of work that you do and where you can transfer to and of course yes anything else you think is important
ok my daught er is 12 and i have worked for wal-mart for 7 yrs and i live in north Carolina. um i wanted to transfer to new your where my dad lives he is a where of all of my domestic violence issues that i have been going through. i feel like even though there have been emotional abuse and physical abuse now im feeling like im getting financial abuse as well i am drained . i feel like husband is always Christianizing be always being negative I feel isolated
okay I see
He hurt you physically as well as emotionally? is that what you are saying and YES financial abuse is a form of domestic violence as well
it always seems the law is on his side he comes off as this caring great husband and father yes he did there was a call place to the police and i got arrested because i got tired of being knocked to the ground so i got up one more time and and swung at hi m wrong of me to do i know
I am so sorry
where does your Dad live in new york and is there a walmart near him where you can transfer?
yea he left me in jail for 24 hrs i had brusise and they said it sucks that i was there but at least i was safe for the time cuse it could have been worse for me
I understand what you are saying
yes he lives real close to the one that will take me
okay and you and your daughter can live with him for a few months while you get on your feet?
can you do this Nancy?
yes but my husband wont let her go and now he has made her say she wants to stay with him. and my dad said don't go because he will sue u for child support.. But he cant financially take care of her
okay Nancy, is this both your child, you are your husband or just yours?
both of ourrs
and can you tell me whom she wishes to live with? can she say who she would prefer to live with?
who does she wish to live with?
well she is a daddys girl she said him
okay so that makes this hard
yea becuse i feel gult becuse i no he cant provide for her
if you you wish to leave him she will choose him, do you think you can live with that?
well the bigger issue is that she will choose him whether or not he can support her
i dont know ive been dealing with this for almost 20 yrs
and its clear that she does not know he has abused you
well its amazing but also good that your daughter is not aware of the abuse
I dont know how you protected her from that but you did
Oh she has seen it but he put most of the blame on me sez it is cause by my actions cuse i am not a happy Pearson and im never satisfied
children know better Nancy
so its good that you protected her
the rest is up to you
you can leave and move to NYwithout her and live with your dad
or you can stay and see what happens there
I think its a good idea for you to get out
believe me so do i i just didn't know if this was another abuse tactic or with finances
no financial abuse usually goes along all abuse, its just more subtle
it goes along with verbal and physical abuse so you are on target on this
no worries about your judgment there
oh i was thinking maybe i might be making to much out of that
second guessing my self i guess
No I think you are NOT making too much out of this :)
ok thank u
I can well understand why you would second guess, it sounds to me as if you have been through quite a lot already
okay but take your time on this Nancy
really think it over before you act
make sure you have all your ducks in a row if you know what I mean
be careful too
dont get hurt again
or framed again
yes i do and i will thank u for talking the time to talk to me ok.
ok pleasure to talk with you Nancy and take good care. Night now.