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To know how a man feels, pay attention to his actions
, not his words. Some men learn that they can manipulate women with flowers and sweet words...and they don't hesitate to use them if they think it will get them something.
This man knew you had feelings for him by the way things went the day he came to your house. Although he's the first man you ever loved, he's making it pretty clear by his actions
that he non longer returns those feelings (no matter what wonderful words he uses to keep you dangling on the line).
In a harsh way, he's done you a favor. He's shown you what he turned out like, ten years later. He turned out to be a man who will manipulate a woman's feelings, cheat on someone he's in a relationship with, and who doesn't have the courage or character to be honest with either of you.
A man who's in love with you will move the moon and stars to be with you--not avoid you. I know this is going to hurt a lot for a few weeks, but you'll look back at this situation some day and know for sure that you 'dodged a bullet."
Before getting involved in another relationship, there are two books that are must reading to help you find the man who will move the moon and stars to be with you.
The first is Temptations of the Single Girl This book should be required reading for women before they start to date. You'll never get fooled again by a man after reading this and following her suggestions. (ignore the cheesy cover--it's a great book!)
The second book is a bigger commitment. It's seven weeks of daily reading and writing and self-exploration. It will help you get clear on what you really want from life and relationships, and increase your self-esteem. Don't just read it all the way through. Do it the way it was designed--daily--and you'll be amazed at how much clearer this all seems at the end of the process. Calling In The One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life.
This is the perfect book to use to recover from being used. I hope you'll give it a try.