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Hi and thanks for writing JA
are you there?
hi there, are you there?
good how r you
I am fine thanks for asking and nice to see you
I have read your post
and congratulations on meeting a nice guy
sounds very nice to me
yes i need advice
okay well I will do my best to help you on this
First off please understand I am a generation older than you so somewhat more cautious
about online relationships
he is 58 and I am 60
okay well then you are my kinda gal
I think its fine for you to make the first visit
but you know I have read too many newspaper articles and watched too much Dr. Phil
I would go to visit him and stay in a hotel room first visit
ok I am open minded to making the first visit but I don't want any surprises
yes me too I think the same way
can you find a way to stay in a nearby hotel first time?
after all if this was meant to be you have plenty of time later to stay together
I could check but he wants me to stay at his house.
I couldnt do that first visit but its up to you
again I watch way too much Dr. Phil
he extended hospitality to stay
again its up to you
its your choice
yes and I don't want any surprises at this age.lol
what might surprise you?
a hidden wife? girlfriend? dirty dishes in the sink?
I think he could have someone since he said he is a bachelor but he said he didn't
okay so thats fine then
he probably does not if he said so
what else concerns you
no he said he is divorce, but a hidden girlfriend concerns me
okay and what sparks this suspicion?
something you read on fb?
really just causious and he posted a new pic on facebook and 4 ladies responded one said "his girl"
okay well that should get your radar up
did you ask him abou tthis and what is his status on facebook
does it say
in a relationship with my Houston gal?
yes he calls me back when I call him but he usually initiates the calling.
it seems somehow a question dropped off the page
I was asking what his status was on FB
does he say he is in a relationship with you on FB?
no I didn't see him saying he was in a relationship with me. He is single on facebook with lots of friends
okay so you dont really know
You know the best way to check this out is to go there and see. You are far braver than I as I would not stay in his home or any strangers no matter how hospitable they were so go and see.
I think you can check out the house and see pretty easily enough and then you will know right?
should I ask him to post or say we are in a relationship. I need to ask him specific questions to make me feel more into what we have.
yes I would ask him and see what he says or does?
sounds fair to me
yes I am brave but I want to be causious also. Should I ask him to lets set a date to meet and If I go there I'll stay at a hotel.
yes of course
and let me know how it works out
drop me a line and let me know how things went?
I will keep you in my thoughts.
Ok thank my daughter said let him come here first, but I know I have to make a decision
I think you can learn more by going there but I also think the hotel is cautious and appropriate.
Drop me a line when you get back I will be waiting to hear how it went.
and take good care
Pleasure talking to you and I hope this turns out to be a true love match.