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I talked to her today and this is where we are..
I said i need to know if im chasing something ill never get.. She said Maybe, I dont have a Crystal ball i wish i knew. She said i really like how we are right now i dont want a formal Relationship right now. I said but it feels like your already writing me off and just not giving me a chance. She said NO i really like you i dont want to just jump into somethin just to do it. I said if something does happen dont push me away accept it she said ill never push you away.. She said im not tlaking to any other guy you have everything i want so i dont feel i need to talk to anyone..
I told her i said i will never hurt you liek he did im a good guy ... She said thats what they all say. I said ill prove it to you.. I only wana make you happy.
I said Its only been a few months but i do see us growing an amazing relation ship i said im not just asking you to be MY gf tomorrow but the fact that it seems like your not even going to give me a try and just push me away because u dont want a BF i said The only thing that will change once we start dating is the title and sex.. i will never change the way i am because thats how i am i wont treat you different. a relationship is just a formal way of being together i said were already together in my eyes i dont see the difference..
She said I like when you say that but dont say it (meaning were together)lol.. She said im not pusing anyone away.. I care for you soo much and a formal relationship right now is not what i want i want someone i can have fun with and kiss and hangout with with no problems and see where things go. A formal relationship takes alot of time and effort and with my school and work im not ready for that. She said i wana know you so this doesnt need to be so comlicated.
She said how can you think im just writing you off and not giving you a try after what happend friday.. We touched for the first time.. She said i dont do this with anyone but you. Your my best friend.
I said I see this becoming something amazing i really do , I dont knwo what the future holds babe but if we keep going the way were going Nothings stopping us. We have fun and laugh and kiss and love eachothers company if thats not a relationship what it..
We will still hangout and do what were doing only difference we will have the title and sex would be involved..
She said Well... I agree with you..
Please dont over think. she said. Lets just do what were doing and see how this goes i dunno what the future holds but i really like this present..
I feel good now about us i do. She cant give me a straight answer but if i just keep being the man i am and treating her the way i do she will eventually realize she wants me..
I can tell she really likes me Deeply i can tell, im not trying to make this happen tomorrow ill wait as long as she wants but i was just worried she didnt even wana give me a try but she does... and in 4 months shes been falling for me i think.. It wont be much longer if i keep just being me and treating her amazing like i am.. Right?
Hey Debra how are you it's been a while.. Well everything has been going ok I guess with us but were still not together and this new guy just started messaging her on Facebook and she again was telling me. She told me he's in love with her wants to workout with her cause he saw her at the gym with me before.. And she said she barley talks to I'm ... Well the other day he was leaving work and me and her were walking in they stopped hugged and started talking ... Then she told me she said he looks gay don't he he seems very feminine.. And wen we were sitting there I looked over and saw her texting him.. I didn't say anything I let it go then it started bothering me cause she never told me they were texting.. So she texted me saying hey baby how's your night then she said that guy messages me on fb I haven't read it yet.. I said oh on fb or text she said fb ..I said do you like him she said no didn't you listen when I told you I didn't like him.. I said I only ask cause I saw u texting him and yo never told me you guys are texting.. Then she said I don't have to tell you but yes we been texting since a week ago.. And I said u usually tell me why didn't you and i said o ok it's not my business I get it.. And we then talked and she said he means nothing he's just a sweet guy and they talk she also talks to Brent in text now and a kid named Ryan and she said they mean nothing to me.. I said will you hangout with him she said no never.. But in the last few days we barley talk and I feel she has been hanging out with him.. What do I do?Detail Required: LOW; Urgency: LOW
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