I forgot to answer one question you asked.
She has let slip comments about what he will or won't allow her to do and other troubling, to me anyway, aspects of their marriage. When I confronted her about how wrong this is she has replied softly, almost' apologetically and quite unconvincingly that she is in fact happy... pretty much. She says early in the marriage it was very, very tough for her. But, that now after a few years, she's got used to it. That statement made me crazy.
I told her that in no way did I believe her. But she again saying that while her marriage may not be ideal or normal that she said (and after a pause) she was happy.
It can't be possible. Like I said, she possibly has one person beside myself she could call a friend. Otherwise, everyone else to my knowledge are people who are husband knows and, of course, approves of.
I did not ask her if anything got physical, as she is only really opened up the past month or so. I just wasn't sure how to confront her or talk with her, which is why I'm here now