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I am so sorry for your terrible predicament. The daughter has been manipulating the situation ever since she became jealous of you, and now wants you out of her father's life. You have not said anything about the relationship with your boyfriend, only with his daughter. If he is also giving you a hard time, and has been taking her side, you must tell him that you are at the end of your patience and that you are going to end the relationship if this situation continues for another week
Tell him that you are not asking him to choose between you and his daughter, but to choose whether he will be dominated by her and keep you at the receiving end of abuse, or put his foot down and be in charge of his own life.
If he cannot or will not put an end to this manipulative behavior, then either leave him, or reduce your contact with him (if you are not living together).
She wants him to choose but he never does, and so you are always at the bottom. It is time for you to take charge of the decision and make your own choices. You have three:
- continue living as you have been and accept it, along with the anger, pain, and rejection
- demand a real change and make sure that he sees it through NOW and not in some vague promised future
- leave and find someone to whom you are number one, and so precious that you will be treated like the valuable person that you are.
Be strong, courageous, don't settle for less than what you want, persevere if there is REAL hope and signs of change, or move on if there is not.
Elliott Sewell, LPCC, NCC