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hi, i really hope you can help me this is really playing on my mind now
Hi, this guy is really sending out some mixed signals. On one hand, he's engaging you and his behavior is such that he's really into to you. On the other hand, when things seem to be about to take a turn down that road, it stops, he doesn't show and he stops communicating. It sounds to me as if he truly doesn't know what he wants. I do think he's into you but I don't think he knows what to do with those feelings beyond that. I think you should try to talk to him and ask him what is going on.
I think it's fair for you to let him know that his behavior baffles you and if you also have feelings for him then share that with him. Tell him that you can't deal with this back and forth and the lines of your relation/friendship need to be clearly drawn so that you can have some piece of mind.
to be honest we have in the past had a converstaion like this. i have told him i would like to try and give a relationship a go and he has said no. i think it might be a commitment issue. he has been engaged before and broke it off at the last moment he only ever has long term relationships as in 1-2 years. i think he is in love with love but i dont know where i fit in with that.
i had already decided to tell him that the last time he contacted me has affected me because it was so strange and unlike anything that has happened between us in the past. i agree that he is sending mixed signals. the thing is he openl tells me he loves me and i him but its never clear if that is a love of friendship or somthing else.
what should i do if he refuses to talk about it or says nothing will ever come of it? he does always say that we will eventually get together (jokingly) and has talked about us still being this way when we are in our eighties. it is so confusing and i dont want anyone to get hurt or caught in the cross fire.
i also do not know what to think about him telling me he is thinking of me whilst he is with his girlfriend on holiday?????
Hello, if you've already had an open discussion with him about your feelings and he still continues with the back and forth, you definitely have to make it clear to him where the lines are because it's not fair to you. If he refuses to talk about it you can still say your peace. If he says nothing will ever come of it, then request that he not blurr the lines of your friendship so that you can move on to be with someone who is not afraid of commitment. Him telling you he's thinking of you while with his gf on holiday is really him doing the same thing he's always done. It's not fair to you or to his girlfriend. You can't continue to let him play with your heart.
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