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Russ0114 : Hello
Russ0114 : I read what you've shared and it sounds like there's still a chance for the two of you to continue to work on building a relationship.
Russ0114 : An important factor in any relationship is honesty and communication and you've already started on the right path which is great.
Russ0114 : Now, I think it's really a matter of you continuing to be very honest about your thoughts and feelings.
thats what Im unsure of...
Russ0114 : Since she still has left the door open for communication
in the past my dissinterest always has worked in my benefit...
always want waht u cant have tec...
Russ0114 : I think you would be doing yourself a disservice if you didn't walk through the door and at least show her that you're still interested
Russ0114 : But as you said, a girl has never made you feel that way that she has
Russ0114 : So, as much as that's worked for you, it really hasn't if you feel different this time around.
Yeah, but i guess im wondering if the all out honesty is the way to go.. or give her some time and distance to figure things out
Russ0114 : My advice would be to share with her that your feelings have not changed but you're willing to give her some time and distance to figure things out.
Russ0114 : Let her know what it is that you're looking for but respect her wish to take things slowly.
Russ0114 : If she's still asking about you visiting, then I would go out on a limb and say she has similar feelings
Russ0114 : Be available, if you truly want to take the steps necessary to be with her.
So start calling and texting again?
Russ0114 : Yes, because she's never really stopped trying to contact you right?
well.. its not the same as it was...
the ocassional how are you? then doesn't respond for a day..
Russ0114 : When she does that, do you respond?
but whenever i post something on FB she likes it..
whatever that meens
yeah, always polite and friendly but not to eager..
Russ0114 : I think you should ask her what it all means...
Russ0114 : For instance: reference the fact that both of you acknowledge that you have feelings for one another
Russ0114 : That she still wants you to visit and spend time with her and you want the same
Russ0114 : but then she expresses that she doesn't want to rush things because of her past
I feel like its that kinda behavior that pushed her away in the first place onfortunatley
Russ0114 : Honesty? Or being forward?
too much too soon
Russ0114 : Ahhhhh
Im just trying to get it back to a place where its fun and interesting again
Russ0114 : You may be right, it might've scared her a little
without the weirdness
Russ0114 : I think you're going to have to take her lead
yeah, and maybe stimulate a little jealousy too.. lol unfortunately
Russ0114 : If she texts you the occasional "how are you doing," respond and at some point you do the same.
Russ0114 : LOL....Ummmmm :)
works every time.. ;)
Russ0114 : I think if you just take things as they come in the moment you'll be fine.
Russ0114 : Flirt with her every now and again.
thanks for the advice.. appreciate it
Russ0114 : You have to show her that you're still interested but that you're not going to sit on your couch eating bon bon's until she decides that she wants to take things to the next level.
Thats what ive been doing.. Glad to hear it sounds like a good direction
Russ0114 : Yes, it is. Just don't make yourself completely unavailable but you don't have to be staring at your phone ither.
cool, thanks again