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My husband walked out on me almost two weeks ago. He moved

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My husband walked out on me almost two weeks ago. He moved him and his son out while I was at work. He left me a note on the counter that he didn't want to speak to me and I should only contact him threw email or text. Per advice I have sent him numerous cards and letters telling him how much he means to me and how I much I miss him him love him. He has responded twice. Both in a very negative tone. He says he wants his life back and to stop being so angry and depressed. His situation living with his mother, his brother, his son, two dogs and his mother screaming about everything from don't touch the glass on the front door you'll leave finger prints...has made him hate me even more. I put him there! I don't know what to do. He has walked out before, but has come back. He has never gone this far. He has just yesterday changed his mailing address to his mothers house. I don't think things are looking very good. I don't want a divorce. I love him and would like to get the chance to work things out. But I don't know if I can get threw to him or how to get threw to him? He doesn't have a job. He has no source of income. He is stuck. And according to him I made him do this. I am to blame for his continued unhappiness. Should I wait, should I file for divorce, should I stop contacting him? What can I do to try to give him the opportunity to become a little more settled within himself. He has medical issues...he had major back surgery, his is an addict and now is addicted to painkillers in which they are trying to wean him off of. He takes antidepressants, I know he is struggling to get some relief, but I am not sure that he made the right decision to leave. He has made a point that he is miserable and blames his situation entirely on me. He is a very smart man. I do not believe things are ever over until you die. Things can change. But how do I deal with the pain and embarrassment of what is going on in my life right now?
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  psychlady replied 6 years ago.

You move on by first accepting that it is over. He has done everything imaginable to end this and remove himself. You have no other choice. He is done. Now it's time to rebuild. Find yourself a good individual counselor that will help you with accepting this. You have closure. He has moved, turned phone off, and stopped communication. Find a way to grieve this relationship so that eventually you find happiness just not with him. You may find that you really deserve much better (addiction?) You really need to explore why you want a relationship that is so negative. You could do better. Find someone today.


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