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hi, been married for 23 years, i am a professional women, and have done EVERYTHING in our entire marriage- every idea, income, pursuit EVERYTHING I support the family financially worked my way through school et etc. He is so unmotivated. He NEVER has initiative drive or idea. he is nice. we have 4 kids pretty good dad. but i am frustrated don't respect or love him for many years as he is unintelligent, unthoughtful, unmotivated to me. I have tried the try to get him involved, start a carrerr, send him back to school, own buisness - nothing works. can't even relate to him watches crap tv sitcom's i like history, news and politics. He spends his time pretty much drinking and smoking and playing on line poker all day. meanwhile i just got done working - literally 24 hours x 10 days (I am a doctor# XXXXX am exhausted and he wont even do my laundry #I am too tired to do it too so i just buy more clothes and it sits on the floor for weeks), and he lords over us. He is what the kids call "a
Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  David Akiva replied 6 years ago.

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